Same-Sex Marriage: An Introduction

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    Is it our right to deny a right? You could ask anyone and seventy five precent of people will say, yes, gays deserve the same rights in housing, jobs, government benefits, equal law protection and public accommodation. Then you get to gay marriage; that is where the talk of equality stops. Why so much controversy? Granting legal marriage rights under the law must extend to gay and lesbian couples to ensure that all citizens enjoy full human rights, no longer face discrimination and are not subject to being stereotyped by the straight society.

    Gay and lesbian couples are denied basic human rights because of who they love. Not only is the gay population not allowed to marry whom they want, but they are denied many basic human rights because of their sexual orientation. The federal law called the family medical leave act grants twelve weeks of unpaid leave to allow them to care for their ill or injured significant other, however this does not apply to gay and lesbian partners because they are not the laws definition of “family”. Not only that, but depending on the state or even the city hospitals will or will not allow someone to visit their same sex partner when visits are restricted to family only; nor will they let them make decisions for their partners medical treatment. Among that, gay couples are “not qualified” in many states to adopt children. Over 100,000 children are up for adoption in the United States to date; legalizing gay marriage would make it easier for gay and lesbian couples to adopt children and the number of orphaned children would go down. A study in 2007 done by doctors out of Europe concluded that marriage gives the people involved both physical and psychological health benefits; denying gay and lesbian partners the right to marry shows it could be hazardous towards the health of same sex couples; having the opportunity to live healthy is a human right. Massachusetts was the first state to legalize gay marriage in 2004, between the years of 2003-2008 divorce rates lowered 21%; in turn Massachusetts had the lowest divorce rate across the country in 2008-2009. Adoption, marriage, health care and personal health among many more are all civil human rights gays and lesbians are denied; no one should have the power to take away what makes the gay population human beings.

    Members of the gay community are discriminated against every day because of their sexual orientation. Not being allowed to publicly celebrate their love is not the only problem they face. Gay and lesbian people face hate crimes every day. On October 9th 2010 in New York City three gay males were attacked and subjected to torture by nine people who call themselves the “Latin king goonies”. Two teenagers and a man were lured into an apartment by Bronx community college by the anti-gay group where they were sodomized, beat, burnt and tortured for hours strictly because of their sexual orientation (Dolnick). How can that be considered acceptable? More recently in a small town in Texas tucked between Dallas and Fort worth there were eighteen reports of gay and lesbian couples finding derogatory slander such as “queer” and “faggot” graffiti on their car or home (Wright). The discrimination and hate they face is grotesque and unacceptable at the least but, it seems it is simply swept under the rug most of the time. Men and woman who face discrimination because of their sexual orientation suffer from low self-esteem, are more likely to suffer from mental health issues and were more likely to commit suicide. Some believe that marriage goes hand in hand with procreation and that is why gays should not be allowed to marry because they cannot pro create. If all marriage was about was procreation then in fertile hetero couples should also not be allowed to wed because they cannot “produce”. It’s been said that giving same sex couples the right to marry will ruin the idea of traditional marriage but what they don’t realize is that traditional marriage went out the window all to many years ago; there are marriages and family arrangements based on polygamy and communal child bearing which are also consider wrong in societies point of view. Again, people have said that legalizing gay marriage would make homosexuality promoted in schools, but they don’t take into consideration that gay marriage is already legal in some states and many foreign countries, including Canada; but never once has there been someone point out that homosexuality is being promoted in schools. What is being promoted is equality and tolerance. Legalizing gay marriage would not stop the discrimination but it would lower the rate significantly, accordingly making the rate of people who commit suicide or consider committing suicide go down. In a 2008 study of four hundred gay, lesbian and bisexual people they discovered one in seven reported living in fear of homophobic violence. This fear was justified in that nearly eighty five percent of those tested had been subjected to some form of homophobic violence or harassment in their lifetimes and one in two had experienced homophobic harassment or other non-physical abuse in the past two years. It’s not fair nor is it ok that people have to live in fear of showing who they are because they are afraid of getting harassed or discriminated against because of it.

    There are a lot of misconceptions that come along with the word homosexuality and what it really is, along with an enormous amount of stereo-types such as all gays are promiscuous and are just interested in sleep around. Stereotypes surrounding gay relationships are even more atrocious; it’s been said that there is no way they can have a long lasting relationship, and the relationships they do have are shallow and uncommitted. Gays do have those types of relationships! But, the first thing you need to remember is: In the straight society, where those relationships also exist only do so in small amounts of people and primarily happen very young. The straight society has grouped all gays into the same category and stereotyped them as being promiscuous, uncommitted, shallow, vain, or stuck up. That is not the case at all. In every country, city, town or village there are people who are like that and yes, some of those people may be gay but that does not give you the right to group all gays into that category. Most gay and lesbian people are exactly that; people, they want love, they want to live long and be happy. Just like people of the straight society, they are no different and deserve the same rights as everyone else.

    Pretend for two minutes that your younger sister or brother turns out to be lesbian or gay and when they find their true love and want to get married, they can't. You will never attend their wedding or see the look on their face when the love of their life walks down the aisle towards them. Most arguments against gay marriage don’t hold up when faced with close scrutiny because the points given and the feelings of the opponent don’t make much sense after being held up to the light of reason. President Obama said “no one in America should ever have to be afraid to walk down the street holding the hands of the person they love.” Well Mr. President, you got it right! Just because someone loves another person of the same gender does not mean they cannot love, it does not mean they are anything less than human, it does not mean you have the right to discriminate against them and it sure as hell does not give anyone the right to say they cannot show their love and commitment to that person. Love is love and that’s that no matter if you’re gay or not; we all deserve love and no one can take that from us.