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I believe that everyone has problems or challenges to overcome

YuMcKinney, Texas
Entered on May 15, 2009
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I believe that everyone has problems or challenges to overcome everyday. Even people who think that they are perfect have problems or challenges to overcome everyday. I always have to overcome challenges or problems. No one in this world will not have any challenges or problems. They will have some type of challenge or problem. I believe anyone will be able to overcome those problems. People will always have issues when coming to problems or challenges. Sometime when I have problems in my daily life, I think of them as challenges to overcome. When you overcome those challenges, I know that you will feel good about it. I believe that no one should challenge a problem in their daily life. Because you get problems and adversity anyway, no matter what, why not at least make use of them? Thinking of those obstacles as challenges is a giant step in the direction of making hardship or difficulty has meaning. Best decision I ever made was to strive to do this. Don’t get me wrong. I still have my moments where I fail miserably and then gripe and moan for unknown amounts of time as I have a pity party. However when I’m done feeling sorry for myself I remember my goal to do this and suddenly there is a surge of strength that comes up that I didn’t know I had….and I can carry on. So I wish you the best as you strive for this goal!!! I believe that anyone will be able to overcome challenges and problems everyday. I believe that problems are challenges to overcome in your daily life. Believe in yourself and believe in your problems and challenges to overcome everyday. My own problems or challenges that I had to overcome: One day in Computer Science class, we were starting another lab for the six weeks. My teacher Mrs. Glennon taught the lesson needed for this lab last class and I did not understand it very well. There were many lessons to teach you to know the materials, but something was missing and I could not understand it. On that day, I was unable to complete any parts of my lab, because of my lack of understanding for the lesson. Later that afternoon, I walked in to Mrs. Glennon’s room to get some help for my lab and lessons. In about 20 minutes, she finished reteaching the lesson that I was unsure of. I understood the lesson very well and was able to complete my lab that evening when I went home. I took the problems as challenges and I was able to overcome it!! I believe anyone would be able to overcome challenges or problems in their daily lives.

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How to Write Essays About a Challenging Problem & How You Solved it

By Rebekah Richards ; Updated June 25, 2018

How to Write Essays About a Challenging Problem & How You Solved it

“Write about a challenge you’ve overcome” is a common essay topic students encounter in high school and on college applications. These essays offer students an opportunity to showcase their personality, experiences and values, as well as their writing skills. This type of personal narrative may seem daunting, but organizing your thoughts can make the task manageable and even fun. Don’t wait until the last minute to write your essay. If you’re rushed and stressed, you’ll write less effectively.

List Problems Encountered

Brainstorm challenges you have faced and write them down. Don’t worry if you’ve never accomplished anything dramatic; everyday challenges, such as overcoming a fear, helping a friend or working toward a goal, can make great essays. What have you struggled with? What moments have made you proud? What experiences have changed you? If you have trouble thinking of examples, ask a friend or family member, or flip through old journals and photo albums.

Identify Obstacles Overcome

Choose a challenge you’ve overcome, and make sure your topic is something you feel proud of and are interested in. Writing your essay with passion and sincerity will be difficult if you don’t genuinely believe the experience was meaningful and transformative. In addition, make sure your story shows you acting in a positive way, especially if your essay is part of a college application.

Tell Your Story

Write your first draft. Don’t worry about sentence structure, grammar or spelling, just tell your story. If you’re stuck at the beginning, don’t worry about crafting a perfect introduction — simply jump in and start writing. Many students who struggle with introductions and conclusions find writing the body of the essay first, and then tackling the beginning and ending, makes the process more manageable. If necessary, think about how you would tell the story if you were speaking to a friend or acquaintance. After finishing your draft, take a break before editing.

Edit Your First Draft

Analyze your draft for clarity and logic. Does your story make sense? Focus on the narrative elements. If you’ve left out key parts, add necessary information. Add transitions, if necessary, to help your story flow smoothly. Next, edit for structure and style. Examine your first paragraph, especially your first sentence. Your first sentence should introduce readers to your topic in a vivid and immediate way. If possible, include vivid sensory details. Examine your essay’s ending. You don’t need a conclusion paragraph in a personal narrative, but your last sentence or two should give the reader a sense of closure. Make sure the lesson you learned or experience you gained is clear. Check spelling and grammar carefully.

Write Your Final Draft

Read the entire essay and delete any repetitive or irrelevant descriptions. Make sure sentences flow smoothly into each other without excessive repetition or wordiness. Check that your essay is separated into several paragraphs and that each paragraph furthers your story. Ensure that your essay is within the recommended length. Read the entire essay slowly and carefully, searching once again for spelling and grammatical errors. Read the essay aloud, if possible. Give your essay to a friend or teacher to read for clarity, spelling, grammar and sentence structure.

Tip

  • Don’t wait until the last minute to write your essay. If you’re rushed and stressed, you’ll write less effectively.

Warning

  • Don’t embellish your story. Exaggerating is academically dishonest, and inconsistent details may alert a reader to your deception.

References

  • Palomar College: Writing a First Draft
  • Grade Saver: Admissions Essays
  • Forbes: How To Answer ‘Tell Me About A Problem You Solved’

About the Author

Rebekah Richards is a professional writer with work published in the “Atlanta Journal-Constitution,” “Brandeis University Law Journal” and online at tolerance.org. She graduated magna cum laude from Brandeis University with bachelor’s degrees in creative writing, English/American literature and international studies. Richards earned a master’s degree at Carnegie Mellon University.

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Life Is Tough: Overcoming Hardship and Failure

Is it genetics, luck, or pure willpower?

Posted Aug 21, 2013

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“When life gets tough, the tough get going.” This timeless proverb may be true for some but, for others, hardship can be too much to overcome. When the going gets tough, their life simply falls apart. What is it exactly that separates those who thrive regardless of adversity and those who don’t? Is it genetics , luck, or pure willpower ?

Consider that Nelson Mandela spent 27 years in prison before he became the first democratically elected president in South Africa. Abraham Lincoln failed in business, had a nervous breakdown, and was defeated eight times in elections before becoming president. A boy born to a teenage alcoholic prostitute and an absentee father found himself in trouble throughout his childhood , eventually growing up to be Charles Manson.

These examples are extreme, but they demonstrate the different routes people may choose when facing major obstacles. Some people turn to alcohol and drugs , stealing, or physical violence. Nearly 16,000 people drank themselves to death in 2010. Every year, more than 3 million children will witness domestic violence in their home. Conversely, many people have gone through hell and back and are moral , happy, and successful. As a youth violence and family trauma psychologist, it’s my job to find the turning point between the right path and the wrong one.

In my own life I dealt with hardship and failure. My family was poor. I had to cope with suicides, mental illness, and domestic violence; two of my family members died of alcoholism. My grandmother was a teacher and I thought I would follow in her footsteps. After attempting to go to school for teaching, I realized that I was not cut out for it. I felt like I had failed. When I was young, I tried to be a writer and was not successful. My first marriage was a failure, as was my first business. I was challenged significantly when I enrolled in my Ph.D. program at the age of 42 and my classmates were all 20 years younger.

And the story would not be complete without telling you that someone attempted to rape me when I was a young woman. I only told a few people. I cried and cried. I wanted to scrub the skin right off my body. Yet today, I can face my fears and am a big fan of “Law and Order: Special Victim’s Unit.”

Despite all these trials, life marched on and turned out positive. I earned my Ph.D. I am a successful non-fiction writer and the author of two books that have sold well. I own my own practice, Eastern Shore Psychological Services, which has grown considerably and won numerous awards. And I am happily remarried to a loving husband, although I once told myself that I’d never marry again.

Why was I able to overcome the negative parts of my life when others from similar backgrounds have ended up addicted to substances or in jail? The simple answer is that I had enough protective factors in my life to outweigh my risk factors. For instance:

  • The neighborhood I grew up in was safe.
  • I was always supported by people who loved me.
  • I did well in school and had opportunities to succeed.
  • I had pro-social role models.
  • I received treatment for depression and PTSD .
  • There were many happy events in my life.
  • I kept going, one foot after the other, no matter what.

The Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention found that children who have more than five risk factors (learning problems, maltreatment, chaotic neighborhoods, etc.) and less than six protective factors (adult support, life skills, clear standards set by care givers, etc.) have an 80% chance of committing future violent acts. This means that, while we all face varying levels of hardship, there must be a counterbalance of positives in our lives so that we may continue to grow and succeed.

Looking back at my family members who struggled, I realize that they did not have the level of support and education about depression and alcoholism that I was fortunate to have. At two points in my life, I had problems controlling my anger , just like my father. But I gained support through education and friends, and I learned to deal with it effectively. Without these support systems, statistical research says that I would most likely have failed.

It’s true that some of our ability to deal with hardships and failure has to do with biological traits and genetics. Some of it may have to do with luck. But mostly it has to do with the environment and people around us. Our parents , siblings, peers, educators, and community all play a vital role in shaping who we become. Life is tough and we all have our own challenges to face. But we don’t have to face them alone. With a caring heart and encouraging hand, we can all play a role in supporting others through their greatest hardships.

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Submitted by Wim on August 21, 2013 – 5:35pm

It sounds like you’ve had an interesting life. I read in a magazine article about 20 years ago that sometimes it only takes one person’s support and encouragement for a child to realize he/she is capable and worthy, and I believe that to be true. In my case, there was not one supportive adult anywhere in my life, and nothing to counter my father’s relentless verbal abuse. We had no extended family, none of my teachers paid attention to me because I was quiet and shy, and my mother was tuned out. I developed such a severe case of social phobia that I couldn’t finish college and eventually married an abusive man- no surprise there. I’ve seen people with much less talent, looks, and intelligence achieve things in life that I could not even attempt, and the common denominator is always that they had someone – a parent, an aunt or uncle, a grandparent, a teacher, even just a neighbor who praised, respected, and validated them. Without support, you tend to just want to give up on yourself.

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you are correct

Submitted by Kathryn Seifert Ph.D. on February 18, 2018 – 2:37pm

Those that have at least one person in their lives to make sure they are supported and well cared for makes a huge difference in what path people take after trauma.

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Motivational Speeches

Submitted by usmar ali on April 22, 2018 – 4:08am

Very nice article. great idea. thanks for sharing. keep it up.

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That is very sad

Submitted by Kathryn Seifert Ph.D. on August 21, 2013 – 7:46pm

It is very sad that no one was there for you. I feel like I was very fortunate in that respect. However, it is never too late to make a friend to be your support and cheer leader. You make a friend by first being a friend. You sound very kind. I believe you can find a friend and the two of you can support each other and do great things. Good luck.
Kathy

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How to accept that youll never have the life you deserved

Submitted by RJ on July 8, 2015 – 11:18pm

My mother deliberately beat me over the head so often that it caused brain damage, ptsd. And, I didn’t what was wrong with me until I was 56. Over those years, though I was able to still learn, and earn both a BA & MED, I lost many jobs, couldn’t maintain relationships, gave up two children, was beat up by several men, filed bankruptcy twice, left my home state to escape my hateful and unsupportive family, and now live on a meager disability check.
I also have self-published three books, with significant sales.

What can you say about my horrific life result, Dr. Kathy?

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Yin and Yang

Submitted by Kathryn Seifert Ph.D. on July 11, 2015 – 1:04pm

Dear RJ:
There is yin and yang to yoour story. Sounds like many awful things happened to you. For that I am sorry you suffered. On the other hand, your books probably came out of that awful experience, as well. Such an accomplishment is to be cherrished and I hope it brings you satisfaction.

I recommend that you also try therapy to bring more satisfaction to your life.
Dr. Kathy

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Yes, this was helpful.

Submitted by Anonymous on August 21, 2013 – 11:24pm

Yes, this was helpful. Yesterday was a very, very, VERY bad day for me. When I’m going through tough times and people just tell me to “push through”, I was want to scream. Literally. Knowing why I feel that way makes why i am struggling much more understandable. Makes me feel less a failure. (A little.)

But why do siblings, seemingly raised in identical circumstances, have different degrees of resiliance? I’m the youngest of 7, and I’m stuggling terribly. So is my twin brother, although he has a post-graduate degree and thus has greater financial stability. Our older siblings seemed to have it much harder than us–our alcoholic father actually hit them, for instance, and they contributed to the family income as young as 16 years old, so in many ways their childhood ended earlier. But they are all type-A workers and are doing great financially.

I was literally beat up in school almost every day (or hit) from grade 5 onward to 12th, all by this one group of kids. Could that have affected me, and still affect me? I know I had PTSD after high school..just seeing a siloette that remotely looked like my tormenters would leave me shaking (like I had epilepsy, that kind of shaking.) That reaction lasted for years, but I don’t have it now. What is wrong with me, when all my siblings turned out good?

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Several factors come into play

Submitted by Kathryn Seifert Ph.D. on August 22, 2013 – 11:23am

First born children tend to be type A personalities. The theory is that they get more undivided attention from their parents and grandparents. As more children are added to the household, parental attention is divided among the siblings, so each gets less undivided attention.

Also when a child is abused at home and then experiences bullying at school, the impact of the two types of abuse together are greater than one alone.

My point, though, is that we all struggle in one way or another. When we have the help and support of others, it makes it a little easier to overcome the problems we face.

That is why counseling works. It is someone that can help solve problems, reframe the problem, give support, and teach skills.

If you grow up in an abusive home, your parents are not teaching you the skills you need to cope effectively with problems. You have to learn them later in life. A counselor or therapist can help with that.
Good Luck,
Kathy

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A valuable sharing and a great modeling of protective factors use!

Submitted by Dr. Joseph Abraham on August 21, 2013 – 11:26pm

As Social Psychologist and a practitioner Empowerment as the vehicle for overcoming hardship and failiure.
Your article is a great inspiring source to the art and science of helping people finding the right protective factors in their life to outweigh their risk factors.

Thanks for allowing us to learn from your own personal life lessons,
Dr. Joe

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Thank you

Submitted by Kathryn Seifert Ph.D. on August 22, 2013 – 11:25am

Thank you. That is helpful. I hesitated briefly before sharing this, bu I thought it might be helpful to others. Thank you for your encouragement.

Kathy

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Who says life is tough?
Life

Submitted by D X on August 22, 2013 – 9:41am

Who says life is tough?

Life is whatever one makes of it.

lol.. How psychologists and their evil profession push morality onto society is comical. No other sciences do this apart from them.

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Life is what one makes of it unless

Submitted by Kathryn Seifert Ph.D. on August 22, 2013 – 11:32am

Life is what one makes of it unless you have been traumatized as a young child without the support you need to recover. People that overcome adversity in life have had some level of support in childhood to accomplish that.

A longitudinal study of adverse life events was recently completed. It verified that those that had adverse life experiences as children were more likely to have poorer outcomes as adults.

So if you turned out well, thank whomever supported you when you were growing up.
Kathy

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no, im saying that you and

Submitted by D X on August 22, 2013 – 1:37pm

no, i’m saying that you and your kind only seek to pollute the world with your agenda.

what makes all of your profession so anointed that you can determine how persons think, act and behave?

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Exactly!!! To everything you

Submitted by Anonymous on August 25, 2013 – 8:20pm

Exactly!!! To everything you said there.

And to the other commentator, psychologists say what they say for the same reason any other scientist or doctor would — based on research. Maybe years from now with more studies it’ll be more refined or slightly different, and not every case is exactly the same, but that’s generally how we try to figure things out as humans — using available evidence, research. There maybe some ‘doctors’ out there who act like they know everything or go off on incorrect tangents but that’s another story.

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Exactly!!!

Submitted by Kathryn Seifert Ph.D. on August 27, 2013 – 10:33am

I liked your comment a lot. It is by observing (and measuring) what happens in the world and drawing conclusions that scientists attempt to explain the world and maybe to prevent some bad things from happening.
Thank you for your comments.
Kathy

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single handedly faced depression marriage problem financial prob

Submitted by prathosh on March 10, 2017 – 6:26am

Dear Kathy .
I am prathosh from India .I am following you in Twitter my I’d is @prathosh . I am born in gud family .Mom dad okay .I didn’t face any prob till age 20 .Life suddenly hit me with love failure and followed depression for 8 -12 hrs per day for 4 years intense sadness crying and with love failure career failure then family poverty all broke me I faced very very very tough time but after 4 yrs I overcame and started to think how how I got into this what went wrong most ppl will move on I didn’t I questioned everything now though all these occasionally haunted me I have overcome and learnt what’s life mastered depression I will be world class pyschologist myself I learnt what is life and everything now one extreme pain there but positive I have grown very strong 1000 times than normal humans I am extremely optimistic to achieve sky level in anything or everything .This is my experience I wanted to share you .

Request your views on this I single handedly faced and won destiny .

Prathosh

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I am happy you have overcome

Submitted by Kathryn Seifert Ph.D. on March 26, 2017 – 4:52pm

I am happy you have overcome your adversity. This is how any of us become stronger, is by overcoming our travails and problems. Good Luck to you.
Dr. Kathy

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i am happy you have overcome

Submitted by prathosh on June 13, 2017 – 6:40am
Kathryn Seifert Ph.D. wrote:

I am happy you have overcome your adversity. This is how any of us become stronger, is by overcoming our travails and problems. Good Luck to you.
Dr. Kathy

Thanks mam humbled with your words .I have to say the reality life is very very tough it squeeze me like anything I worked hard 100000% 8 to 12 hrs a day with intense thinking and intense concentration for ten years to get all answers I went wrong many ways and now learnt what is right in everything .
Mastered depression thoughts and mind . understood what went wrong in my life from past in everything and now by gods Grace in verge of fixing it right but truth is have cried 500 times and suffering is like heart and soul level intense pain but this has made me 1000 times stronger like mountain level mind strength to achieve sky level heights like Bill Gates or more than that in my life .

Does everyone has to go through like this much to achieve success in life .

Whatever be the case I am happy for achieving this level by god grace I will be achieving Sky level heights like Bill Gates or more by my experience intelligence optimistic thought and courage .

Request your humble view on this mam .

Prathosh
Age 31 India .

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sounds like a case of Iatus

Submitted by Bob on August 22, 2013 – 11:12am

sounds like a case of Iatus

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When the going gets tough

Submitted by Nancy Kobrin on August 23, 2013 – 3:29pm

Kathy my dear friend and colleague, I am so honored to work with you,. Your thoughts and raising the issue of factors of support are very important and clarifying how to be able to make choices that build a better life and how to understand retrospectively what happened in detail.

Thanking you for writing this,

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Thank You

Submitted by Kathryn Seifert Ph.D. on August 23, 2013 – 3:40pm

Thank you for your kind words of encouragement. You are truly one of my supports and I thank you for that. Be well, my friend.
Kathy

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I liked this article! I

Submitted by Anonymous on August 25, 2013 – 8:24pm

I liked this article! I subscribe to your articles/newsletter via email too since the notion of “what makes people ‘go bad'” has always interested me. I always feel that something, somewhere, gravely failed or crushed these people. And it’s a mix of environmental, biological, etc and not the same mix for everyone.

Anyway this article makes it really simple, boiling it down to having more protective factors to outweigh the risk. Makes a lot of sense, and makes it a lot more clear/back and white, something to work from. I like it! Something to think about.

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Thank you for your comment

Submitted by Kathryn Seifert Ph.D. on August 27, 2013 – 10:28am

Thank you for your comment. Your conclusion is exactly the point i was trying to make. It is a mixture of positive and negative factors that determine how someone is going to function in the world and everybody’s mixture is different. To me, my own life and those of others i have observed support this idea well.
Kathy

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A fascinating discussion iis worth comment. There’s
nno doubtt that that you ought to write more oon tjis issue, it might not bee a taboo
matter but geenerally people do not talk about these subjects.

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Submitted by Kathryn Seifert Ph.D. on March 5, 2015 – 6:50pm

Thank you for your comments. It is an important topic.
Dr. Kathy

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inspiring

Submitted by Kathleen D. Watkins on March 24, 2015 – 2:38am

A very interesting and truly inspiring story. I agree that the environment and the people around us are two of the most important factors that play such a huge part in our lives especially when faced with life problems and difficulties. Thank you for sharing your stories with us.

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It is a very inspiring story.

Submitted by Getgoing on August 18, 2015 – 9:40pm

It is a very inspiring story. I grew up in a loving family. My parents always support me whatever I did. When my business failed, I lost all my money and their money they put into my business as well and I still have a big loan to repay. I couldn’t stop thinking about the bad decision I made that put my whole family into this hard situation. I couldn’t overcome the guilt and accept the truth. My parent still told me that they worried about my health (because I am so obsessed with my failure) more than money. I felt like I let my parent down for not being strong to face the situation and at the same time, i don’t know how to cope with my circumstance. Your article helps me a lot to have courage to go through the hardship i am facing right now. Thank you.

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Thank you for sharing

Submitted by Kathryn Seifert Ph.D. on August 18, 2015 – 9:55pm

Many businesses fail once or twice before they finally succeed. It is also the perseverence and learning from our mistakes that helps us finally succeed after the failures. Keep going. You can make it.
Kathy

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Submitted by Ariel Cunningham on July 11, 2017 – 8:55am

i agree that life is tough. and also you cannot attain something without hardships.

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I agree completely

Submitted by Kathryn Seifert Ph.D. on July 22, 2017 – 1:40pm

As the philosopher Nietzsche said, “What does not kill you, makes you stronger.”
Kathy

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kathy mam i have a clarification very urgent important

Submitted by prathosh on December 6, 2017 – 9:55am

Mam I have a question this is prathosh from Chennai .I have posted my story earlier please refer mam .

I had suddenly extreme hardships for 11.5 plus yrs love failure deep separation career problem health problem badly then family poverty financial situation very bad all hit very bad suddenly single handedly I faced all and got very much in depression for yrs . negative thoughts racing thought hitting mind continously like 8-12 hrs per day for yrs consuming me fully I didn’t share anyone by gods Grace and iron will I overcame after 11.5 yrs but the process has been very tough and I had to cry 500 times .but after overcoming Everything . and understanding it has given me confidence intelligence lesson about life .mastered depression and Understood Everything truth of life .in other words it has given me 1000 Experience like anything hitting me one after other And in that process made me wise knowledge wisdom and intelligence .infact my age was 21 and now it’s 33 in 11.5 yrs 1000 Experience and facing all and overcome by god blessings .now I am having brimming confident and can reach bill Gates level or more .in age 33 I get this much confidence and I am dreaming positively .I can reach sky height level .can my example be extreme .can I conclude I as person only has suffered the most in this world or it’s wrong conclusion please give me your views and I want to know do we have to suffer this much to achieve in life or has the persons who have become famous suffered similar . please let me know Kathy mam .
Thanks
Prathosh

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This is very inspiring I

Submitted by Hassim Adnan on February 25, 2018 – 10:10pm

This is very inspiring I suddenly remembered my days in almentor. Thank you.

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thank heaven for that! thats

Submitted by Muhammad Faizan on February 26, 2018 – 12:00am

thank heaven for that! thats a nice tips. this is just the same from what Mr. Fawzy told me at almentor. whooo!

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Tough time really dont last

Submitted by adnan hassim on February 26, 2018 – 1:48am

Tough time really don’t last but tough people do. Thanks for the reminder. Being tough is the best thing that we can be right now, my professor Fawzy at almentor used to remind me that thing in life.

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well this is really helpful

Submitted by Muhammad Faizan on February 28, 2018 – 7:57pm

well this is really helpful thanks, it makes sense to always think about your life just like always mr.fikry in almentor always told me.

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